We would rather not talk about sadomasochism and for good reasons. We live under a glass ceiling. We are prisoner of a high maintenance human body. We want to free our soul from the level of matter and we expect some pain. What kind of people could strive in those conditions? Sadomasochism comes to mind.
You can find masochism everywhere
It is what makes you take a chance with your life on the freeway to save a few seconds when you have nothing urgent to do. It is what makes the driver willing to take a chance to run out of gas. What exactly did you feel when you saw people in a circus risking their life for your entertainment? Could you feel some sadism in the air?
Scarne calculated the probability of winning at many different games. The more you play, the closer you will get to those mathematical probabilities and they are not in your favor. The gambler would rather focus on feelings. When you lose you are a failure and should be ashamed. When you win you dominate everybody. You are the king and they have to pay for your winnings. The sadomasochism of the gambler overcomes any rational thinking.
We go even further. We use the judicial system to impose our point of view on others. This is sadism. It starts when we are making laws that are not necessary. We justify our action by saying that “It is for their own good”. We want the world to be perfect and it can only be perfect by following our own ideas - of course. The truth is that there is some sadism in us that is out of control. We have a need to satisfy and that need is overwhelming. Take and idea such as “Love the neighbor” and mix it with human nature. The result could be a burst of sadomasochism such as the Inquisition.
Wars are an opportunity to suffer and make others suffer. We know that they are not the best way to solve conflicts but we keep the practice. What other justification can you find other than sadomasochism? What we call ‘geopolitics’ is sadomasochism at the government’s level. In a more civilized society, when there is a conflict, all the politicians who fomented the fight would be accused of war crimes. They would be sent the The Hague. The judge would decide who can go back home and who will go and remove the mines.
Sadomasochism is part of our history. The Romans designed many ways to make the defeated to suffer as much as possible before dying. How can you explain the refinement in the many ways people tortured their victims in the Middle Ages - and even today? How can you explain that a human being would torture another?
Let’s face it. Sadomasochism is part of human nature. It is a need that we have to satisfy.
That could lead to a different conception of good and bad. The ‘bad’ appears when separate entities forget the connection between them and fight each other. The more separate entities you have, the more opportunities that the ‘bad’ will appear. Unity is Paradise. Multitude is Hell. What a pity we could not remain in the Big Bang forever!
Let’s try some empathy.
Is there a need for sadomasochism in our world?
- Our ancestors did not master the use of fire without getting some blisters. That was only a beginning. They found that there is a price to pay for everything. No pain No gain!
- Life in society would not be possible without some rules. In a democracy the individual has all the rights and delegates some of his rights to the government. We all drive on the same side of the road. Sadomasochism starts when you make rules that are not necessary. “Use but don’t abuse” is a law of nature that our science has not yet discovered.
- Some people need sadomasochism in their sex life.
- Even the most beautiful flower needs manure. This is an association of opposites that we can find everywhere in the design of planet earth.